I don’t get accused of being an ABW (angry black woman) or BBW (bitter black woman) because I’m neither. It seems the issue with me is that my standards are “too high”. Nevermind that I don’t have unrealistic standards like height requirements or a list of “approved” jobs/careers. I think that to many men, my standards are too high simply because I have them.

Many are used to dealing with women with no standards, so they’ve gotten spoiled and lazy and think that’s the way it’s supposed to be. But, the thing is is that men have standards as well, and if a woman doesn’t meet them, they will NOT give us that same benefit of the doubt they want us to give them. They simply move on to the next one. But, when I do the same thing I’m wrong. That’s crazy as hell.

I made up my mind that for 2010 I was just going to do what I do, and not even think about men or relationships too much. I’m content being single and free, and there’s nothing wrong with a maintenance man for the time being.

The women were silly and the statistics were shaky. Where was the breakdown of ineligible black women? You know, the ones who don’t have HS diplomas, the jailbirds, the lesbians, and the ones who were otherwise unfit for marriage? If that kind of breakdown had been done, I’m sure there still would have been more women than men fit for marriage, but I doubt the margin would have been as wide.

I think all the attention being given to the “plight” of the “successful” black woman is a result of what I’m calling the Michelle Obama effect. She is well liked and respected, and suddenly all black women are no longer lumped under the same stereotyped umbrella: hypersexualized, lazy, electric babymakers. Suddenly, “America” (a euphemism for white people) realizes that there are some driven, accomplished black women out here… and OMG, they’re not going to have a Barack of their own. THE HORROR! Sigh.